February 2015 archive

How to be someones mom

How to be someones momIn a weird way, I think that I rediscovered my “mom groove” after the birth of my baby girl. I’m calling it “weird” because I actually knew how to be someones mom before she was born. I mean, I was not completely foreign to the concept. My firstborn is in his teens, so I’m practically a pro! But rediscovering all the joy (and dedication) a newborn baby brings reminded me of the importance of being Mom.
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Changing my hairstyle one meal at a time

I have firm faith that 2015 will not end the way it began.

I mean, its so easy to ramble by, year after year, wearing your hair the same way, doing the same kinda things and being around the same kinda people. 
Not that all of this is bad all the time. I mean, some of the time, its kinda nice. 
But not this year… not for me. 
This is shocking because I hate change… which is why I’ve been wearing my hair the same way every year since the history of hair. So this is kind of a big deal.

Various pics of my (same) hairstyle spanning 2008 to present. I use to think I’ve got the whole Pocahontas hairstyle thing going, but yeah, its pretty much me doing absolutely nothing with my hair. 
Now, I’m not saying that I’m going on a huge hair cutting spree quite yet. 
I am slowly INCHING my way towards change. Just not the hair right now. 
But I am planning to do a whole bunch of other things different this year for the sake of growth and destiny and not being stagnant! I feel like there is soooo much happening in the spiritual realm and we kinda need to take steps of boldness to make it manifest in our lives. 
Some of the things I plan to work on this year (yep some are pretty deep but this one aint) is that I want to actually cook more than just the 10 or so dishes that are a favorite in our home. 
I’m not a terribly terrible cook, but I’m not exactly Nigella or Jamie. 
I guess what I’m trying to say is that, even though I actually own a cheese cutter – which is not a cheese grater, contrary to popular (my) belief – I don’t know the first thing about using it or why I would actually WANT to use it! 
Same goes for my herb cutter. 
Same goes for my whisker thingie. 
Same goes for my casserole cooker and ceramic serving dish. 
Yeah, it’s that bad. 
SO what I’ve done, in true excel-spreadsheet-brain style, is devise (i love that word….deviiiise) a list of recipes that are quite different to what I’d normally prepare for my guys. 
These are easy to make and look very interesting, oh and they are easy to make! (baby steps mmkay?)
My spreadsheet has a list of each recipe and in a separate column, all the ingredients I’d need to make each recipe. 
So once I sort the column, I can then print a list of ingredients I’d need for a fun month of “Oh look I can make a casserole too”. 
I’m actually feel pretty chuffed that I am taking the first step towards doing something different in 2015. 
They say a change is as good as a holiday. 
Bring on the vacation!!! 
xxxL

Jumpers anyone? My brain needs a kickstart…

Photo: Americas Morning Show

Today marks 2 weeks before I return to work and I’m starting to feel a bit frazzled.
All of a sudden I can think up hundreds of things I need to get done before returning to my 8-5 job and I also really want to sleep as much as I can and lounge around in PJ’s but then I also really want to do stuff, like shopping, rearranging the house, breakfasts with my hubby, going on excursions…
So much to do, so little maternity leave time to do it.

Being an adult is such hard work. It takes real commitment, if you want to do this thing right.
There are no short cuts (like studying for a test a few hours before)… everything requires proper planning and sensible thinking! Now with this said, I am aware that I take that notion to the umpteenth degree.
I cannot do anything without planning it properly, or else I feel totes out of control.
I think that’s the beauty of my marriage to my totally out of control husband! He doesn’t do anything pre-planned… he finds it really boring and tedious if he has to think about what hes going to do tomorrow instead of just waking up and doing it. I cant live like that.

But I’ve found that since becoming his wife (it’s only been 1 year, 1 month and a couple of days ya’ll) I’ve found myself way more chillaxed!

I mean, I even left the house on spur of the moment wearing NO MAKEUP! Yep, it actually happened.
Today, I’m on my bed, laptop on my lap, baby asleep and guess what, I am not neat-freak-tidying the house. Feels good.
I’m on that “might wash my hair now, might wash it tomorrow” buzz and I’m a bit subconsciously afraid that its going to swallow me whole!

I had a brief panic attack earlier, thinking about how I am going to manage to balance it all – going to work and coming home to a baby that will want to be with mommy, getting her bathed, cooking, homework with Kyle, cleaning up etc etc etc…
How do moms with toddlers AND infants do it?
How do moms with twins do it?
I’m starting to wish that I wasn’t so relaxed and had an action plan in place.

2 weeks before normalcy returns and I am considering getting a full time maid.
Does this make me laaaaaazy? (yeah, I’m singing the song in my head too)
I don’t think that husbands understand the enormousness of our role!
There is no “down time”.
Oh to be a child again!

Full time working, husband pleasing, Super Moms around the world – I salute you!
xxxL

2015 – You’re about to get served!

Kicking butt preggy belly and all  (Taken in 2014)

Well, I take my metaphorical hat off to those ladies who have managed to hit puberty, found and lost their first love, found and left their first job, made an enemy, lost a good friend, got married, had a kid or two, found friends who you click with at this stage in your life, generally live the rest of your life loving and serving your family AND still find a way to be the same girl you were before it all happened.

I wouldn’t say that I have made a 360 degree change from being the dorky, read-a-holic, Mariah Carey loving, insecure, shy girl I was pre-baby number 1. But there are definitely bits and pieces that are no more and gobs of “new me” where there wasn’t before.

I always find it kinda corny when people say “stay as sweet as you are” and “never change!”
How is that possible? Life changes people and peoples lives change.
Character shaping events are all a part of the package of growth and hey, just being alive, I guess.
I mean, even if you don’t do anything remotely significant for a whole year, a part of you will still be affected… changed… subconsciously. The mere passing of time has the ability to shift things.

With that said, I think that although we cant stop life from happening and time from going forward, we DO have the power to make right decisions. We can ultimately choose to learn from hard knocks and allow the tough stuff to mold us.
I have personally endured so much crap (for lack of a better word) and I intensely disliked every moment of it BUT I chose to take the lesson out of the situation.
Lets call life a party…. the lesson would be the swagbag.

I’ve kinda been talking myself into being proactive this year.
2015 is going to be the year of a lot of things!
I do not want to be in the same place at the end of 2015. (I’m meaning physically, emotionally, spiritually – career, marriage, family etc).
I do not want to be in the same head space either.
If I cant look back at this year and think “wow, I’ve learnt some hard lessons in 2015” then bah humbug!

Bring it on 2015!
I’m going to milk you for all that you’re worth!

xxxL