As I’ve shared before, I’m a teen pregnancy statistic. I gave birth to my boy when I was 19 years old and with it came the sudden progression from young girl to young mother. In fact, I still consider myself a “young mother” even though I’ve been at it for almost 15 years. While being a teen mom is not an ideal situation to be in, I can honestly say that I am now reaping the benefits of having kids early! (Disclaimer: Don’t try this at home! Or, at least, don’t try this without a spouse and financial and mental stability. At least.)
Our boys are finishing high school in a couple of years time… which means Hubstopher and I will be two down (and who knows how many more to go) Yay! That dream of retiring young and travelling is looking pretttty sweeet (and very realistic) right about now! But besides for that, there’s a bunch of other things that I think are totally awsome and great perks of having kids at a young age. Here they are:
1. Older kids can help with the younger ones
It has been a total plus that my boy was 12 years old when his sister was born. He was progressing from boy to teen, so he was quite keen on me giving him “space” as he began to feel out the new season he was in (which means he was cool with me giving baby lots of attention). There has also been many fantastic opportunities to teach him responsibility by having him help out with Curly.
2. Free labour
Or as I’d like to call it “clever parenting”. When you’re a young parent of an older kid, you will reap a whole bunch of wonderful rewards (without feeling guilty about it), such has sleep-in Saturdays (provided you don’t reproduce again, like I did) because they are able to make their own Pronutro. Sleep-in Saturdays also means coffee in bed (and sometimes breakfast – age dependent) (For me, not them). It’s also helpful that they can wash the dishes without breaking anything and the fact that Kyle is an aspiring chef, always eager to showcase his variations of the infamous toasted cheese sandwich, is a bonus score. Oh and I don’t have to cut their sausages up into little pieces anymore. All while enjoying my 30s.
Moms of teenage kids hollar! Making me tea is like, a non-negotiable.Yep, I’ve become THAT aunty! Kyle knows how I like my tea… Seth is still learning that it needs to be “skinny color” and not red or white. I want pink tea. The right kind of pink. When it comes to making me tea, they know that I am the “Queeeeen, darrrrleeeng!” and they humor me too. So glad they appreciate the joys of having a mom who has only recently vacated puberty.
4. I can wear his sneakers
We’ve recently reached a “hey, I can wear your sneakers and I can rock your sneakers!” realization in our lives, which means that Kyle and I have been in each others sneakers atleast once or twice. I see it as a perk of being a young mom. Him, not so much impressed. I’m even able to get into his hoodys if I want. Not that I will. I mean, hoodys do absolutely NOTHING for my hair! *flips hair and walks off*
5. Quality quality time
Gone are the days of watching Finding Nemo on repeat (aka he watches the movie, while I play Snake on my Nokia 3310). Ahhhh no… such is a time where my boy and I can watch a decent movie or a series (‘Once Upon A Time’ is our fav) together and actually have a long conversation about whether or not Emma and Snow are going to vanquish Rumpel in the next episode. It’s very much like having an “almost adult” around that you can share stuff with, but at the same time, send to his room when it’s time for lights out. Or send to the kitchen for tea. It’s a win-win situation really. For me, I mean.
6. I can say “I know!” and he believes me
It’s only been a couple of years since I finished high school (give or take 10 years bwahaha), so those memories are still up there someone, floating around in my head, gloating at me while I’m trying to concentrate on work. But the perks of it is that I am able to share them with my boy, making me more relatable to him. Of corse, his friends cannot understand why Kyle’s mother looks like she could be his sister. Ah they flatter me, bless their hearts. A gold star for all of them!!!!!! Gold stars all ’round!!! *and scene*
7. I can say “I know!” and I actually do know
Look, one of my favorite perks of having kids at a young age is that there is pretty much nothing that these boys can get past me. (encourage me as I go on believing this, please). I know the trends, the sayings, the culture and the latest fads. I know social media. I know cellphones. I know slang. I know girls. I know. #thatisall
8. He can kill spiders while I lock myself in the bathroom
9. I can rely on his opinion
When Kyle speaks, I actually listen. (Even though I sometimes tell him to go be quiet and make me tea.) At 14 years old, he is quite mature and very bold, so when I am ready to leave home and he says “No mom, you don’t want to wear that” then I take note. He has outed me on a bunch of others things, on occasion, with honest reasoning that has really made me think. It’s an amazing, annoying perk.
Yeah, I said it! Grandchildren! The kid wants to get married young (he says he doesn’t have time to date around). So this means that I could very well be a grandmother in 10 years time. Let’s just allow that to sink right in. The perks are that I’ll be a young grandma, which means that my grandkids can make me tea too. Oh and I get to see them grow up and have kids of their own (who can also make me tea).
Ahh children. The gift that keeps on giving.