Today the man that I call Hubstopher turns 30 years old. To him it’s just Tuesday. To me, it’s another reason to celebrate his life and all that he means to us.
I know that he often disregards all the wonderful attributes that make him unique and wonderful to me… things like being able to forgive someone who wronged him 5 minutes ago or offering to give someone a ride home, even when he is utterly exhausted and the destination is on the other side of town. Stuff like that. Being able to put another persons needs before yours may seem like the trait of a meek personality, but in my opinion it is one of the bravest, boldest characteristics to have.
He has a lot of friends… so many that we almost had 10 groomsmen in our wedding party. People enjoy being around him. He is super, duper creative and an excellent musician. He is extremely smart and most times would play his brilliance down, because he always feels like there is so much more to still learn and do.
My Hubstopher is the guy who would say “Okay, how can I fix it” if a complication arises. And if someone walks all over him he shrugs his shoulders and defends “ag, it’s okay, she is probably just angry.” Sometimes I don’t understand it and I force him to fight back or stand his ground. He doesn’t get that. To him it’s just a whole lot of work doing something that is not going to give the right results. He always chooses peace, over ‘being right’.
My Hubstopher is the guy who would give up his last because he is that confident that God will provide his next. He’s the guy who laughs at the dumbest things (seriously, sometimes I’m just over here like “whaaa?”) but he’s also the guy that would shed a tear, quietly, when a friend loses a parent. Yes, he cries, and tries to hide his tears from me, but I think that it is a marvelous thing when a grown man is able to feel compassion for another person. Don’t get me wrong though… the guy’s not perfect. He has his flaws – we all do. But his finer qualities far outweigh his weaknesses, in my opinion. And in times of struggle, I’ve seen him choose life, over and over again.
My Hubstopher is a wonderful father to our kids. He loves our daughter so fiercely that she’ll probably still believe that she is a beautiful princess, way into her 20s. And it would be true. The first moment he held her in his arms, he quietly spoke a prayer over her, dedicating her life to God. And he does this for our boys too, all the time.
Hubstopher gives so much of himself to my son, even when Kyle has an attitude. Instead of being an angry step father, he’ll look Kyle straight in the eye and say “Kyle, I love you and I only want what’s best for you.” Isn’t he a GREAT man? He also has an undeniable bond with his own son. The boys adore him. He is more than okay that Seth has a step dad… another dad… in his life. He sees it as a bonus that there are 2 strong, Godly men in Seth’s life, shaping and influencing him. That says so much about his character.
He is gentle and passive but also extremely passionate about the things that are important to him. I probably don’t say this enough but I am so thankful for him. My man allows me to shine my light, without getting jealous or insecure about it. In fact, he’s the one who pushes me to shine brighter! I am blessed.
Happy Birthday to my Christopher – he’s the best of the best, he’s the greatest! #mushymoment *andscene*