How to survive being married to a musician

Being married to a musician has its perks. Strange perks (like when he decides to “beat box” to you ranting about something) but perks, nonetheless. Are you dating a muso? Well, girlfriend, this advice is for you!

How to survive being married to a musician

1. Learn to not look up when he refers to “Pooky” because it’s probably his guitar. Understand that he names his instrument. It will probably be an even mushier term of endearment than he has for you.

2. Expect him to spend a fair sum of money on things like strings, pads and sticks. (Clip note: they are not what you think they are.)

3. Never refer to a singer as a “musician”. You are only deserving of the title “musician” when you play an instrument.

4. Do not break into hysterics when you find him making this facial expression while listening to music:

No, he is not having a mild heart attack. This just means that he likes and admires what he is listening to.

5. Accept that you will be listening to music at its highest volume from here on or be okay with him wearing headphones all the time. Because there is no other way to really listen to music.

6. “Sound Check” – Definition: You will be at the event hours before anyone else is. 

7. When the lights go on and everyone goes home after an event, keep calm while you watch him potter around on stage. Be prepared to hang around as he “jams” with the band… yes, the same band he just played with for the past hour.

8. Learn how to speak muso. Quick lesson:

  • A “sick” bassline means that it’s good.
  • When someone is a “beast”, they are quite skilled at playing their instrument.
  • The term “shedding” does not refer to hair loss.
  • “Breaks” does not mean someone broke something on stage.
  • The terms “double time” and “half time” has nothing to do with sport.

These views and opinions are solely based on my experiences. Reference: 



  • Melissa Javan

    Hahaha! I LOVE this. Seriously I thought my hubby is very unnecessary to always play the music loud. Then he gets mad at me if I mention this.
    Pooky? That’s a bit weird. For everything else on this blog post, Luchae you spoke to my heart. Glad I’m not alone – musician’s wife/ blogger. Oh yes, he doesn’t like to be called a musician – he is a music composer because he writes music for film and what what.

  • Shaveh

    When your lounge gets flipped fro a sitting area into a wired up stage – amps, drums and all. Headphones are either constantly going missing or faught over – don’t even dream of messing with the ‘proper’ head set. I had to chat to him about having the instrument in the bedroom – not in for early morning serenades Then the kids are similar, everything is an instrument and it either becomes a tune, rhythm or full stage show. I agree, it has its perks but shoo it can get a little loud sometimes

    • Luchae

      Omw, sounds like you’re starting a band baby! LOL Yep, we’ve also had “who touched my headphones” situations at our house. We all know to treat his equipment like gold. And yes, some of them are named! hahaha

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