Posts Tagged ‘Parent Hack’

Our mommy/daughter pamper day conversations

pamper day conversationsI’ll admit I’ve been feeling super guilty lately. My toddler is a mere 2 years (and a couple of months) old and soon, she’ll be relinquishing her title as “baby of the house”. Sob! My little pink curly girly will be a big sister curly girly! How could I do that to her?! Okay, okay, I’m calming myself down. I know that it’s probably just the preggy hormones. I’ve been finding different ways to emotionally and mentally prepare the both of us for the new addition to our space. I try to spend a lot of time with her and instigate conversations around baby Jo and what life will be like once he is here.  This weekend we did a girls pamper, thanks to Oh So Heavenly, and we had a few random pamper day conversations (I mean, are toddler convos anything BUT random?) and here’s what went down:

Bath1For starters, she insisted on adding the bubbles to our bath water herself, which made my heart sob AGAIN because look how grown she is! The Oh So Heavenly baby ‘Oils of Africa’ range is delicious! It’s made of Marula and Baobab Oil and she loves it because the gentle bubble bath creates masses and masses of bubbles! Once engorged in the warm water and suds, we chatted a bit about baby Jonah (after she greeted him by putting her lips to my tummy and semi-yelling “hello baby Jonah!”)

Me: Karis, how big do you think baby Jonah will be when he comes?
Karis: Like dis! (indicating that she thinks he will be, literally, the size of an atom)
Me: And where do you think he should sleep?
Karis: On Mama bed and on Dada bed! And in my tummy!
Me: And where will you sleep? (she sometimes still makes the 2am trip to our room, if she wakes up in the middle of the night)
Karis: In our bed! (Our as in, her bed. Don’t know why she calls it “our”)
Me: And Karis, what do you think baby Jonah will eat and drink?
Karis: Mama tee-tee! (giggling) Hello baby Jonah! (while talking to my boob)
Me: Kari can baby Jonah sit on Mama’s lap? And Kari can sit next to Mama?
Karis: No, I sit here (shows to my lap) and he sit der (next to me)
Me: Okay, can Kari sit on Mama’s lap and baby Jonah will sleep in my arms?
Karis: (nods to indicate that he has her permission)
Me: And what will we do when he cries?
Karis: We say “Don’t cry baby Jonah!” and then we fight him
Me: Noooo, we mustn’t fight with him! We must love him!
Karis: We sing “Twinkle twinkle”
Me: Okay deal

Bath3The rest of the conversation revolved around her ‘My Little Pony’ which is the name of her Oh So Heavenly ‘Pony Party’ body wash. It smells like strawberrys, candy and “I wana eat it right now!” But don’t eat it, for the love of all that is good, DON’T eat the body wash. The range also has bubble bath, shimmer lotion and body spray.

She made sure that “baby Jonah’s My Little Pony” (The Oh so Heavenly Mum&Cherub ‘Sleep, Baby, Sleep’ bubble bath) is put away in a safe place. Big sister much? I love the smell of this lavender infused range which has been designed to soothe and calm baby before bedtime. Uhm, yes please!

Bath4We spent the next half hour (no, seriously) rubbing on lotions and potions. She was especially enthralled with my Tissue Oil – which was applied copiously to the lower parts of my legs (and hers). Not that I minded. My skin is seriously in need of damage control!

Bath2Once done, she gave us both a once over and declared: “Like a Pwincess!” And she was right! She is my princess and I love sharing these special princess times with her!

I figured that having these small talks with her will encourage her to acknowledge the fact that the baby is coming and he’ll be here to stay! For now she seems really excited about it – I seriously hope that the excitement stays, once he’s born!

Dissecting my role as a stepmom

my role as a stepmomAccording to some movies, the stereotypical stepmother is usually someone reminiscent of the ‘Wicked Witch of the West’. Well, I’ve been a stepmom to my stepson for about 3 years now – and in his life for about 8 – and I’d like to think that my witch tendencies are at a minimum. Mind you, it’s not always easy to be a supplementary mom to a kid who already has a very present, hands on mom. In fact, what is my role as a stepmom anyways? Besides for being married to the kids dad, I mean. And how do you avoid overstepping boundaries? (more…)

Mom guilt: Needing time away from your children

Mom guilt: Needing time away from your childrenI’ve been dealing with some mom guilt over the past few weeks. You know, “mom guilt”… when we, as mothers, beat ourselves up for various reasons beyond our control. Things like not keeping your home clean enough to eat an egg from the kitchen floor, or not cooking enough healthy meals with 27 food groups in it, or not spending enough time finger painting and making skeletons out of popsicle sticks with your children. Things like that. My recent (very serious) case of mom guilt was brought on by the fact that I did not want my toddler to be around me every second, of every minute, of the day. Ever crave some time away from your children? Well, I was there. I needed a BREAK with a capital B-R-E-A-K! What type of mom thinks that about their kid?! (more…)

6 practical gift ideas for your pregnant friend

gift ideas for your pregnant friendIs it just me, or is pregnancy contagious?! It seems that I’m always surrounded by preggy women, when I am pregnant. I love it! It’s as if you have your own little tribe who can share in your experiences. They know exactly what you’re going through! (I mean, who else will “get it” when you complain about the fact that your underwear doesn’t fit anymore?!) And so, with the influx of expectant moms, I’ve found that I need to think out of the box when it comes to gift ideas, when birthday season hits. But I’m prepared (and no, my preparedness does not involve me putting a shiny bow onto a pack of nappies). Check out these awesome gift ideas for your pregnant friend: (more…)

the punishment of pregnancy

the punishment of pregnancyI sometimes feel the punishment of pregnancy. It’s there… the unspoken, acceptable norms, that make life as a female a little bit more difficult than before.  There are just so many challenges to overcome – legalities that shouldn’t be an issue – when you are expectant. Moms, did you also feel this way when you were pregnant? I did not realize how much it affected me until I visited my OBGYN yesterday. She took one look at me and exclaimed “wow, let’s see how many are in there!” Gasp, twins?! (insert instant freak out here) I’m sure we could handle two babies at the same time… right?! I mean, we already have three children, for crying out loud. What’s two more? (more…)

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