7de Laaners, all across South Africa, have been fuming recently as they watch their beloved Errol (played by Christo Davids) be mistreated by his new flame,Tarryn (played by Kay Smith). I mean, this girl has major psycho girlfriend tendencies. From smashing their crockery (on the first night at their own place) to cutting his guitar strings (yoh!). Say it with me now: Issues!
I stifled a giggle while checking out what 7de Laaners had to say on Twitter and Facebook. “Tarryn must build a bridge and get over herself; she has too many issues,” one fan wrote. “She lies to and about Errol. She sucks and is immature!” Bwaaaaa!
It made me think about these psycho girlfriend tendencies. If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably had your fair share of relationship dramatics. And the thing about jumping from relationship to relationship is that you begin to pick up these insecurities and perceptions that are probably as far from the truth as Tarryn and a GHD is. It is these very same negative perceptions that influence how you respond in your next relationship and eventually your marriage. AAACK.
I’m speaking about those irrational feelings of ‘unloved’ or ‘unwanted’ or ‘not good enough’ one picks up after being hurt. We all show signs of it on different levels (some of us cut guitar strings). It can manifest itself in the forms of depression , manipulation or anger and it certainly makes you wonder if jumping into that relationship is such a good idea, after all. I mean, why risk entering a long-term commitment with the WRONG one, if it means toying with your emotional and mental stability?
Test the waters, they say. It’ll be good for you, they say.
Well, if I could go back in time and undo all the damage brought on by being in the wrong relationships, I would in a heart beat. (Sorry ex boyfriends. It’s not you, it’s me.) Please take this as a reminder that it’s okay to NOT be ready for that relationship. No matter how cute he is when he laughs. My advice to you is to wait until you are ready, have your deal breakers in place and be on high alert for those warning bells. Don’t give the ‘psycho girlfriend tendencies’ opportunity to manifest in your life! You hear me?! Whenever you contemplate giving your singledom away, for an unconfirmed frollick in the sun, picture me, with a police siren on my head and a loudspeaker to my mouth saying: “Step away from the ‘psycho girlfriend.’ I repeat. Step away from the ‘psycho’!”
I mean, look at our young Tarryn. Do you want to end up like her? (And the crowd goes nooooooo). Shame, I kinda sympathize with her. She has it pretty bad, hey? I wonder when Errol will come to his senses. The girl insulted the flowers he bought her (because carnations are “poor man’s roses”) and she even forced him to move out of Aunty Charmaines house. That lady did so much for Errol, how can Tarryn go and do something like that?
Maybe he’s in ‘psycho girlfriend’ denial, but we all know that unless she has an encounter with Jesus, that girl is not going to ease up. Someone needs to give me Errol’s whatsapp number. I mean, hello, she calls him her “sexy shorty”… if that didn’t set off the alarm bells in his head then I give up…
What do you think about Tarryn and Errol’s doomed relationship?