Posts Tagged ‘Pearls of Wisdom’

The Spur debacle and why I don’t care

The Spur debacleSo the whole Spur debacle has everyone talking and I’ve over here like, “what do you mean no more Monday burger special?!” Look, I don’t mean to sound cavalier about what went down at the eatery. In fact, I am down right appalled. But I was even more shocked at the response of South Africans – far and wide – who (get this part) was not even AT Spur at the time of the incident. That’s right ladies and gents. You were not there.

In fact, I’m going to take a gander and boldly state that majority of you do not even know the parents involved. (Are my super, amazing, psychic abilities wowing you this morning?) Your anger, however apt, is really not going to help the situation. Your opinion, however indepth, will do nothing towards building up your next door neighbor. With that said, as much as the totally unclassy behavior, displayed in the camera footage, shocked me, it honestly did not affect me to the point where I now want to boycott Spur and white people and black children and eating and (gasp) burger specials.

The thing is, readers, people are people. I’m sure there are a bunch of raving lunatics, who have yelled at each other over far less important things, in the past, and we don’t even know about it because there was no CCTV camera footage to document it. Why is this incident important? Why these people? Is it because the guy is a white man and she is a black woman? Is it because her child is almost married and his is a newborn baby? (I know, right… the way people can spin these stories, hey) Is it because it took place at Spur? Or is it because social media has the power to take an event (regardless of importance) and spread its message to millions in the blink of an eye.

The power and poison of the internet is that news and information is shared more easily. It’s not always a good thing, mind you, because everyone is just so darn opinionated now a days! Fiction becomes facts and facts become debatable and pretty soon, Helga the Housewife is an expert on criminal law. It gets even uglier when it becomes a race thing (sigh) and before you know it, we’re back in our pre-1994 mindset, acting the fool and cussing individuals that we’ve never even met, because we didn’t like what they had to say on a Facebook comment. Are we really being our best selves, right now, people?

If anything, the Spur incident has taught me a few lessons.
The main one being that I am in control of MY actions and MY reactions. No one else is.
The second one is that showing kindness and compassion, even if the other person doesn’t deserve it, is a strength and holds more power than I can even comprehend. Especially if I am doing it in the presence of my children!
Thirdly, I don’t always have to share my opinion. Like, for real, no one cares. Put it away.
And lastly, and most importantly: I really love burgers.

That is all. Moving on, shall we?

(PS: Yes, I am mildly bummed that the Spur Monday burger special will no longer be running. You can read more about that over here.)

Books that made me appreciate life

appreciate lifeWhenever my birthday comes around, I find myself valuing the gift of life, love and family. We are so blessed! All of us. Yes, even without Kim Kardashian hair. I’ve been enjoying a few amazing reads from Christian Art Media, that made me appreciate life even more. These books helped me to self reflect, clear my head space (which is usually difficult if you have a spreadsheet brain) and realign my thoughts. They say you are what you think. It’s the TRUTH! I’ve found that when I focus my thoughts on that which is good, my mood is instantly lifted, my goals become clearer and I am able to face challenges with a smile on my face! So, to say happy birthday to me, I’d like to give some of these amazing books to one reader. But first, more on the books: (more…)

Baby shower gift ideas: what mamas really want

Baby shower gift ideas

Planning a baby shower? Attending one soon? Of course you are. People are popping out kiddos like it’s nobody’s business (myself included). After sharing pics of a fab baby shower that I attended the other day (photos below) a few moms started chatting about baby shower gift ideas. Apparently, there are a bunch of gift ideas that made these moms swoon, while others make them cringe. (Don’t look at me, I like presents, period. Like, put a bow on it, and I’m ecstatic). Moms, are there certain baby shower gifts that you value more than others? Well, I started chatting to preggy moms about their baby shower experiences, and this is what they had to share: (more…)

The most popular (and off beat) baby names of 2016

baby names of 2016In the deep recesses of my spreadsheet brain, I secretly want to have hundreds of children, just so that I can name them. I like naming things. And yes, I do realize that admitting this makes me seem slightly weird. It’s okay, I’m pregnant and people have to be nice to me. I’ll be alright. Anyways, where am I going with this? Well, deciding on a name for our newbie was a no brainer because Hubstopher kinda named him way before he even proposed to me. But, when I found out I was pregnant, I still thought to look up other possible names (because spreadsheet brain and all). Some of the suggestions I received were slightly more ‘off beat’ than I would dare take on. But hey, don’t take my word for it, check out the more popular (and uhhh, interesting) baby names of 2016: (more…)

When you’re dating a single mom…

When you're dating a single momI was a single mom for a good chunk of my adult life. If you recall, I gave birth to my boy when I was about 19 years old. His dad and I split up soon thereafter. Being a single mom has it’s highs and lows. But I found that one of the biggest challenges was dating. Yep, dating a single mom: it’s complicated! For starters, there’s a whole other life to think about, which is sometimes hard for guys to understand. Single mom does not mean “single heart”. In fact, there should be an unspoken rule of the universe: Never break a single mom’s heart! (more…)

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