I was a rebellious child. Well, I was mildly rebellious. But I often wonder what on earth my parents were thinking when I fell pregnant at 19. Or when I went through my “party till I die“ phase. Granted, I was pretty much a good girl, but I’ve had my moments of basically throwing my parents hard work and sacrifice right back into their faces. Fortunately, that soon ended… we all made it out alive, with our original teeth intact. But it got me thinking: what would I do if one of my kids started rebelling? Well, the other day, I picked up a brilliant book titled ‘Loving your rebellious child‘ by H. Normal Wright, that deals with this tough subject!
‘Loving Your Rebellious Child’ is not a “how-to” or a “quick fix”. There are no clever DIY tips and step by step tricks… which I appreciate! I mean, every child and situation is unique and if my kid was acting up, I wouldn’t want more fingers pointing me in the direction of “oh look, your child needs help”. Like, duh. Instead, the book offers valuable insight and talking points that will help you to determine how YOU can become the best parent for your prodigal child.
The author focuses on the many emotions that parents may face, when their children are facing a storm. The first chapter helps you to identify if you have a Prodigal (referring to a rebellious child). Things like parenting guilt, how to respond to your child, preventing and intervening in difficult situations, and even the important topics of forgiveness and restoration, are covered.
I especially loved these practical pieces of advice, that kinda EMPOWERS you, as a parent, when you are faced with what seems to be a helpless situation:
1. PRAY. Don’t think “oh I really should pray”. Actually do it.
2. Don’t orchestrate their ‘rescue’. Let them learnt on their own. Your child needs to learn from their own mistakes, instead of relying on mommy and daddy to bail them out all the time.
3. Love them unconditionally.
4. Learn how to let go.
5. Let other people help you. Don’t be afraid to use this as a time for personal growth.
6. Always keep your door open! Keep lines of communication open, with your child.
7. Create opportunities to spend time with them.
8. Keep a sense of humor.
If you’re a parent who is faced with the challenges that comes with loving a rebellious child then this read is for you. Norm knows what it’s like to love a rebellious child, having experienced it first hand. His book serves as a wise companion, coming alongside to bear the pain, understand the struggle and to offer insights. The book is available at CUM Books.
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