I shouldn’t be alive: How I almost partied my life away {Birthday Celebrations}

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So it’s my birthday in a couple of days time and I’m just chilling here like “whaaaaat”. Literally. I’m asking myself “What? It’s my birthday? Again?” I feel like I turned 30 just the other day. Life is but a breath and one should savor and appreciate every, single, moment. I’m still alive. And that means that I still have purpose and destiny.

A few days ago I explained that I’ve somehow survived so many crazy things that almost snatched my life away – like that one time when I fell out of a moving vehicle. It made me remember a whole bunch of other things that I’ve overcome, which could have ended pretty badly.

How I almost partied my life away

I use to be a party girl, in every sense of the word. I planned my days around when the next party would be. I mean, I had a full-time, corporate job, but I chose to do promos at club events on Saturday evenings just because I thought that doing promo’s was a party. I was THAT girl.

shay&meTequila was my thing. Tequila and Savannah (dry, with a lemon and a straw). Sometimes I would tequila it up so much that I would drive home, with 1 eye closed, just so that the road would stop spinning. In fact, sometimes I would tequila it up so much that I had no idea how I even drove myself home the night before. It was bad. My friends would often follow me home to make sure that I got there in one piece. I thought it was hilarious that they would even want to follow me home, because duhhh I’m Luchae and I’m fine and just to prove a point, I’m going to swerve in the road, from one lane to the next, to give them the shock of their lives. To be honest with you, I should not have been allowed behind a wheel at all.

facebook_1458114422873And then one night I was at one of my favorite night clubs where met a very pretty girl in the ladies toilet. (Why do drunk females always make friends with other drunk females in the bathroom?!) We were queuing and fluffing up our hair in the mirror when I started chatting to her. Well, tequila started chatting to her. Luchae was somewhere in the mix. Anyways we chatted about how much girls rule and how pretty we think the other one is and hey we should hook up and have a girls night one night! Yeah! Girl power! Whoop whoop! I got her name and details and we were meant to get together the next weekend. The rest of the night was a blur and I honestly can’t remember how I got home (as usual). But I do remember her coming to say goodbye to me, before she left with her boyfriend.

facebook_1458114661978The next morning, I awoke out of my drunken slumber and lay there scrolling through Facebook (because one does not simply just get out of bed the morning after). That’s when I saw the news: The pretty Indian girl, that I met in the que at the ladies restroom the night before, had been in an accident. She and her boyfriend lost their lives in a horrific accident, en route home from the night club. Their car was found at the bottom of a bridge. I was in shock and disbelief, a billion things running through my mind: How can it be? They seemed fine the night before! She wasn’t even as wasted as I was. How is that fair? We made plans! She was so young!

Her life was snatched away from her, before her time… before she could even get married or have kids or enjoy a career. How was it that I was still alive… still around… when I had been treating my life like an old pair of sneakers, not caring how I was damaging it, and this beautiful girl had lost hers? If anything, her life and death was a big eye opener for me and I’d like to think that she served her purpose in mine, even though we had only been friends for all of a few hours.

A couple of months after the incident I turned my life all the way around and have never looked back. I realized that the alcohol abuse and senseless partying was a cover up – I had a hole that needed to be filled and those things were just temporary solutions that caused more damage than good. I’m thankful for a second chance and that God is able to make all things new. I am so grateful to be alive.

19 Comments on I shouldn’t be alive: How I almost partied my life away {Birthday Celebrations}

  1. ella
    March 16, 2016 at 09:12 (1 year ago)

    JOH!

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    • Luchae
      March 16, 2016 at 10:25 (1 year ago)

      Joh indeed, my friend, joh indeed.

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  2. Bongani
    March 16, 2016 at 10:14 (1 year ago)

    Wow. Such a thought provoking read.

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    • Luchae
      March 16, 2016 at 10:25 (1 year ago)

      Thank you :)

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  3. naadhira
    March 16, 2016 at 10:44 (1 year ago)

    Big high five too u Lushae very inspired after reading ur story..U are great woman…

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    • Luchae
      March 16, 2016 at 10:47 (1 year ago)

      Ahhh thanks Naadhira :) I bumped my head too many times not to learn from it!

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  4. Davene
    March 16, 2016 at 11:04 (1 year ago)

    I don’t even know how to respond to this post. It’s just such a brave share. And while I have so many thoughts, which I’ve mentioned in my now erased comment, I will just say thank you. For sharing. So openly and honestly.

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    • Luchae
      March 16, 2016 at 11:08 (1 year ago)

      Thank you D… typing it out has been so therapeutic. xxx

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  5. Bianca
    March 16, 2016 at 11:25 (1 year ago)

    Thanks for a beautiful honest post Luchae x

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    • Luchae
      March 16, 2016 at 11:47 (1 year ago)

      Thank you B :)

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  6. Chevone
    March 16, 2016 at 12:44 (1 year ago)

    Thank you for sharing this part of you. We all think we are invincible when we are young and sometimes it takes an horrific tragedy to pull us closer to who we are and who are can be. Glad that you are here.

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    • Luchae
      March 16, 2016 at 12:45 (1 year ago)

      Yes, that is so true! Thank you Chev :)

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  7. Meg
    April 5, 2016 at 10:15 (1 year ago)

    Amazingly honest. God Bless you. So glad I stumbled upon this blog!!!!

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    • Luchae
      April 5, 2016 at 10:16 (1 year ago)

      Bless you Meg, thank you for the encouragement :)

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  8. Missy
    May 5, 2016 at 10:01 (1 year ago)

    Omw that story sounds soo familiar..

    Was the pretty indian girls name perhaps Perusha?

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    • Luchae
      May 6, 2016 at 06:18 (1 year ago)

      Yes it is, did you know her?

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  9. Melissa Javan
    March 15, 2017 at 15:03 (3 months ago)

    Wow, this post is so raw
    Thanks for sharing.

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  10. Candice Gallant
    March 16, 2017 at 09:22 (3 months ago)

    Wow just reading this post Luchae its like you speaking about me! Sjoe i was also that life of the party and also a tequila queen(Thank God no more) also came home wasted and not sure how my then boyfriend drove us home.I will never forget the day I gave my heart to God 13 June 2007 (almost 10years ago) i couldnt stop thanking God for been with me through those stages of my life, and having His hand over me always, and made me realise how precious my life was and is, i did a 360 turn and stopped the partying and drinking and never looked back.The best decision i made by far.Thanks for sharing and reminding me of my Testimony again.#Boom

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  11. Laurina
    March 16, 2017 at 09:55 (3 months ago)

    Girl you have lived!!! I’m so glad you’re alive and that everything has turned out well in your life. Stay blessed

    Reply

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