Girl: Interrupted

Girl interrupted

For as long as I can remember, I was someones mom. I gave birth to my eldest on the 29th November 2001 at the tender age of 19. (Me, not him.) I can’t comprehend a young adulthood without the added pressure of having to look after another little person. I remember admiring other (childless) young adults who were making life decisions, like whether or not they should Au pair in America or even go out to a movie on Saturday night, and it looked glorious! I did not have that luxury. My fate was to stay at home and raise a baby.
I gave birth to my little boy when I was fresh out of high school, just finishing my 1st year at varsity. I actually wrote my 1st year finals with an extremely big belly. Yip, I got all the stares and tsk tskkksss and ag shames and snickers. Especially when your bladder demands to be emptied every 5 minutes and the examination room is a distance from the loo.

My then boyfriend was my childhood sweetheart and he was legit – It wasn’t a “wham bam thank you ma’am” kinda thing. He was my first love and I was his and we were both dedicated to our kid and to each other. But love and dedication aside, we were ill equipped for the task of raising another person. I mean, we were still kids ourselves and we also had alot of growing up to do! Finding out we were going to be parents was kind of exciting. We spoke about names and who the baby would look like and what baby would be like. But as much joy as our baby brought to both families, it also changed things so much. I mean, I didn’t have the freedom to be a young girl anymore. I call it girl interrupted. I left varsity to find work and my baby’s dad also had to give up dreams that he had… Raising a child is not cheap! Suddenly life got real and not quite the fairy tale we had dreamed of while eating ice cream on the couch, admiring my preggy belly.

For the longest time I felt stuck – like I was destined to struggle for the rest of my life, especially after my sons dad and I split up. As a single, young mom, living on her own, with a little boy, I felt totally hopeless. How could I give my child a good life?! How would I even have a life of my own?!

I felt stuck… hopeless… as if I had no future. But guess what, I DID have a future. Jeremiah 29:11 said so. I started believing that my life is destined for success and not failure! I learnt to make GOOD decisions and surrounded myself with people who lifted me up and encouraged me to be the best mom I can be. It’s easy to focus on your failures or miscalculations. It takes a lot of guts to say, “you know what, that didn’t work out, but hey, let me try something else!” I decided to get gutsy.

Through the grace of God, his dad and I managed to find compromise. We made a lot of unselfish decisions, ego’s aside, that would help us to raise our boy with pride. Yep, it meant that both of us had to work HARD (still have to yo!) because we chose to have sex before we were married (and before we even understood the enormity of what that actually means!) so we had to bare the consequences and make the best of it! It took a lot of sacrifice to give him the best that I could but if I had a choice, I would STILL choose my son over and over again.

God is not limited to our circumstances and our human mind sets. He places dreams in our heart and He helps us to fulfill them, if we let Him! God always has a better plan than ours and as you know from previous stories, my hubstopher came along at just the right time, with just the right stuff. We have been blessed with the best.

My son went on to be the deputy head boy at his primary school (moms brains, duh) and is having such a good time in high school. I know that everything God had promised me in Jeremiah 29:11 applies to him too. I am so excited for his future and I am SO thankful for his life.

He is the quirkiest, stubbornest, coolest, weirdest kid in the world. He has been through alot more than kids should have to go through. I mean, I had to do some growing up while raising him. It hasn’t always been easy, or pretty. It sometimes burdens me that he seemed to be more adult than kid for the longest time, always aware of things that he shouldn’t be aware of. Like at 9 years old when he said: “Mom, it’s okay, you don’t have to buy me a burger meal today, only the burger, because I know that you need the money.” I did not want my boy to grow up knowing lack and hardship.

But through it all, I am grateful that amidst my hopeless situation, God came in and did miraculous things! He has restored us and given us a hope and a flourishing future. And if He can do it for us, then He can do it for you too.

11 Comments on Girl: Interrupted

  1. Laurina Machite
    November 29, 2016 at 08:15 (10 months ago)

    Aww what a beautiful and inspiring story Lu! Happy birthday to your son and happy mom-a-versary to you too ☺️

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    • Luchae
      November 29, 2016 at 13:27 (10 months ago)

      Ahhh thank you my lovely!

      Reply
  2. Teneale
    November 29, 2016 at 12:56 (10 months ago)

    What an awesome read!!! I remember those days and you being pregnant and explaining to me how you first realized you were pregnant ❤️
    Well done hunny!!

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    • Luchae
      November 29, 2016 at 13:27 (10 months ago)

      It’s been quite a journey!!!! I remember those first few weeks, you were one of the first people to call me to say congrats 🙂

      Reply
  3. Jade Barlow
    November 29, 2016 at 22:05 (10 months ago)

    Wow, what an inspiring story…Such a living testimony of how how God turns any situation around for our good…and the text is so real and deep!!!He makes all things Beautiful 🙂

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    • Luchae
      December 1, 2016 at 08:24 (10 months ago)

      Yes, thats the truth!

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    • Luchae
      December 1, 2016 at 08:24 (10 months ago)

      Thank you Karen 🙂

      Reply

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