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My birth story: an unplanned C-Sec that changed everything

You know I’m always joking around about the fact that I’m a (self-acclaimed) preggy expert since I’ve been pregnant very many times in my life. And when it comes to birthing my babies, I’ve always opted for natural labour (unmedicated for the most part) because I know my body and I understand the birthing process and what needs to happen.

But when I was admitted to hospital on Monday afternoon, for an induced labour, I had absolutely no peace about it at all. In fact, I ended up crying (no jokes) because something did not feel right. But let’s start at the beginning:

“Imma push this baby out!”

We visited our OBGYN on Monday morning and he confirmed what we already knew: Asher was a big baby and if I wanted to birth him naturally, I would need to be induced. I mean, that wasn’t exactly what I had hoped for (you can read Jonah’s induction story here) and I wasn’t exactly thrilled at the prospect but I was just so darn eager to see my little bebe and I knew that if he were too big, there might be complications.

Anyways, fast forward to Monday evening. By this point they had already initiated induction, but they were going easy on my body (for many reasons, but I think it’s because I’m old haha) and were taking it slowly. By Tuesday morning nothing was happening you guys. And if you know my insides (which you don’t, also that’s gross, sorry) you would know that I usually labor very quickly and easily… especially after an induction.

It was at this point, that I lay in my hospital bed, sobbing… literally sobbing… because I did not have peace. I phoned Hubstopher a few times at this point begging him to convince my OBGYN to “cut me”. I gave him a gazillion reasons why I needed to have a C-Sec… none of them absolutely, like viable. But I was ready to announce that there was an alien growing in my belly, if it meant that they would rather opt for a C-Sec, over pushing the induction.

This, in itself, is absolutely a shocker… I mean, hello, spreadsheet brain here. The spreadsheet brained Luchae would never beg for a C-Sec (especially if I could labour naturally). But, you guys, I prayed. I asked God for peace. I cancelled this feeling of fear (or what I thought was fear). I pep talked myself and listed the very many reasons why I was probably being silly and why I needed to suck it up and give birth naturally, as I usually would.

But alas, no peace. Just an overbearing feeling of “something isn’t right” and “I can’t do this!”

My lovely doctor eventually made his rounds and after a brief chat, he was absolutely convinced that I know my body and I know what’s up and he is going to go with what I suggest: A C-sec. My very first one, ever in my life.

“Cut me, doctor!” 

Joy to the world! Right? (Hahaha tell that to my tummy muscles right now). Anyways, the prep for the op went smoothly (albeit I was a bit freaked out, having watched enough episodes of Grey’s Anatomy to score me a doctor’s license) and I lay on the operating table literally still crying you guys. In hindsight, I must have looked like a damn fool, laying and crying while the other occupants in the room were cheerily chatting and going about their business.

A few seconds into “opening me up” (is mos), my OBGYN calls Hubstopher and says, you need to see this! The umbilical cord was wrapped around my little baby’s neck, not just once, but TWICE! The doc was in shock – we certainly had not picked this up via the ultrasounds. Doc reckons that if they had induced labor and tried to get me to push, baby would have been strangled, without a doubt.

My ‘feelings’ (now known as God who spoke to me) were correct… natural labor would have harmed my baby. Having that unplanned C-Sec saved his life. You can imagine the waterworks, after I heard that. I literally lay on the operating table, in a pool of my own snot and tears as the entire room erupted with laughter, as our boy, Asher, was born. A whopping 4,29kg of absolute gorgeousness!

Everyone knew that we did not know his gender, so it was kinda quirky and cool that when doc pulled him out, he immediately started peeing everywhere, as doc announced “it’s a boy!”… I mean, how like a boy, right?

Anyways, we are currently recovering (and by “we” I do mean me and all my feelings) and yep, healing after a C-Sec is totally different when compared to natural labor. Guys, I have new found respect for moms who have done this more than once.

But more than that, I am so thankful that God’s hand was on Asher’s life on the day he was born. It could have ended a lot differently. He is so faithful! And I am so very thankful.

12 Comments

  • Janet Perry

    Wow we serve an awesome God! Congratulations and well done for going with your gut instinct. Asher is beautiful. My son was also 4.2kg (water birth). Enjoy these early days and all the best!

  • An Ordinary Gal

    A mom’s inner voice hey??? Glad it all went well Luchae!!! Congrats on your baby bundle!!

    Felt like deja vu reading your story…had the same with Addison….also 40 weeks, but no induction. I just had these contractions…that were not actual contractions. They sneakily kept me overnight, saying we were just there for observation. Doc was there at like 7am…nurse had called him during the night (i’d come in at like 11pm)… The doctor didn’t tell us, but we had a birth video and we watched how they struggled to get the cord over her head. She had never turned….or moved from about 30 weeks….. I believe because of that chord. She was born, and everywhere that she has folds or creases (ankles, wrists, etc), it was cracked and raw…. in my opinion, because she spent limited time moving in the last trimester of pregnancy so the skin had just irritated itself where it was lying (if that makes sense). Shame it looked awful…but thankfully our kids are here, healthy and happy!

    Rest up and good luck with your healing <3

  • Andrea Thomas

    A beautiful story! God is truly amazing. “I knew you before you were born. I planned you in your mothers womb.” His plan was written long before we made the choice. You listened. Enjoy these next couple of months with your newborn; we all know how fast they can fly by!

  • Felicity

    Aw Im getting emotional just reafing this.
    Congratulations on the birth of your precious baby boy. I’m so glad that it all worked out xxx he is too beautiful

  • Portia Koenane

    Such a powerful woman you are congratulations ,highly favoured & blessed…God is good all the times phew *sighing*

  • Simone

    Luchae what a beautiful story of God’s faithfulness!!! C-sections aren’t for sissys. But thanks to your obedience, you have a healthy baby boy in your arms right now. Thanks for sharing this beautiful story

  • Megan Keith

    Wow! What an incredible birth story! How great is our God, that He had His hand over you and your baby! And how precious is baby Asher so happy for your friend, and praying for quick healing for you! Megan xx

  • Sandisiwe Mfazwe

    Welcome baby Asher. I am so glad you listened to Gods voice. I am super happy that mom and baby are super safe. What a story.

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